The hidden realities of depression.

  • They could often say “I’m tired” to hide their low mood/energy.
  • They either sleep a lot or don’t sleep enough and there’s a common misconception that their fatigue is laziness.
  • They project an image of happiness to seem like everything’s okay but when they’re behind closed doors and alone they’re deeply emotional.
  • They’re quiet and when you ask them if they’re okay, they say yes.
  • They look at the ground often or won’t look at you directly because they don’t want to make eye contact.
  • Low energy and fatigue.
  • Difficulty sleeping, lack of sleep or oversleeping.
  • Muscle pain and aches.
  • Changes in appetite — not eating much or eating too much.
  • Easily irritated and upset.
  • Difficulty concentrating and recalling.
  • Suicide thoughts and talks about suicide.
  • Be there for them and let them know it. Your presence whether it’s in person or over the phone it can help them cope with their symptoms.
  • Create a safe space that’s free of judgment and unhelpful comments.
  • Encourage them to talk about their feelings and listen to them with compassion. A lot of times they may not speak to anyone about it.
  • Suggest practices like yoga and mediation. This can relieve their stress and help them relax.
  • Suggest professional help such as a therapist.
  • When you’re supporting them, don’t take what they say or do personally. Their thoughts can be distorted, making it hard to manage their emotions.
  • Take care of yourself. Take time to rejuvenate and regulate your own emotions.
  • Do some independent research on depression so you can support them better.




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