Picking your battles wisely.
This is definitely something that I’ve learned from past situations. There are some things that don’t need to be argued about at a great length. You don’t need to go to war for it and it’s really not worth throwing away your relationship.
It is okay to understand and not agree with what the other person is saying. We have minds of our own with different reasonings, that’s why it’s best to acknowledge that and agree to disagree. I’ve learned that imposing your opinion on someone to get them to accept it, doesn’t always work like you think it will. There are certain topics that require more thought and a lot of unlearning and you can’t expect people to do that within the same conversation. They may need time and also research to gain more perspective.
It’s imperative to look at the core issues behind these arguments. A lot of people deal with stresses unrelated to the relationship, so they’ll get easily frustrated at things within their relationship. I think it’s better to address your own issues before so it doesn’t become one in your relationship. Even being open with you whoever you’re seeing, to express what’s really stressing you. You may want to ask for their support or take time out for yourself until your mentally, physically and emotionally stable.
For me I have anxiety so I tend to think and overthink some situations. The internal battle that’s going on in my head won’t let me be at peace and enjoy the moment sometimes. I can worry for England! It’s annoying because I can’t control it that well but I’m trying. I find it helpful when I’m with someone who understands this and reassures me.
In conclusion, arguments happen in every relationship but it’s how you handle them is what’s important. Check yourself and assess whether it’s a battle or a conversation. Don’t react immediately because that’s when you may say things you’ll later regret. Think about the costs and what’s really important to you on a wider scale.